I guess I have had a pretty normal life for the average person. I’ve had ups and downs like most people, I’ve had experiences with family and friends both happy and sad, I’ve lived in different places and traveled here and there, and I have tried to be the best person I can be. However, I’m not perfect and I have my flaws just like most people do.
|Kayaking with Vicky - Vancouver 2011|
I have always been a very healthy person but I was a smoker for a few years when I was younger. I eat fairly well and I have always been involved in sports and exercising. I actually enjoy it! Especially outdoor activities, running, swimming and playing hockey. I really suck at hockey but it is fun! I don’t think I’ve ever been overweight in my life except for post-pregnancy for a few months. I have never really been ill either except for the odd cold or flu once in a while.
The reason I mention this is because I get tired of seeing news stories and various research reports that talk about breast cancer specifically or cancer generally and how it could be related to obesity or environmental issues or smoking or whatever other things that could influence a person to believe that getting cancer was their own fault and could have been prevented. That is a terrible way to feel. Granted there are things that most of us know are not good for us and we should avoid doing but sometimes we do those things anyway. We are told eat this or don’t eat that. Drink this and not that. Breathe here and not there. I think most people now know that if you smoke on a regular basis you will no doubt have some negative health fall-out because of it. It might be cancer or emphysema or bronchitis but you take your chances. We also know that if you are extremely over or under weight that there are health issues that can come up due to that as well. There are several risk factors for breast cancer but there is not a known, single cause of breast cancer at this point.
I don’t believe for a second that having breast cancer was my own fault. I will never let any studies or news stories influence my feeling on that. Neither should you if you are ever touched by this horrible disease and you have been doing all the right things. Sometimes you can do everything right and still end up with cancer. That is what really sucks. There are many women that develop breast cancer without having any risk factors or any family history of this wretched disease.
Nobody asks for cancer. It is an unwelcome intruder that sneaks in to our lives and for most of us we will never know how it got in or why it chose our body to settle in. It really doesn’t do any good to ask yourself “why me?” because that answer is beyond our grasp in most cases. You are not being punished for something you did or didn’t do. I remember when I had my miscarriage in 1997 there was a kind nurse that said to me, “Don’t worry sweetie. This is not your fault. It is not because you did or didn’t do something. This just happens sometimes.” She told me that I had no reason to feel guilty or to feel that I could have changed the outcome by having done something different somewhere along the way. I just had to deal with it and move on with my life. Seems relatively simple. Sometimes really crappy things happen to good and healthy people.
So I guess sometimes shit just happens. For me it started happening in June 2006.
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